according to what ja says... i'm hot and she's cold.. cos i'm hotstuff (i dont' agree) and she's cold cos she's caught a cold.. hahahhaha actually the only reason why i'm hotstuff is cos i am THE CHILLI PADI! ahahahhaha oh man... this was meant as a serious blog.. but look where it has digressed to?! hahahah total crap! ahahhaha oh wells... nothing but a little crap to start the day...
anyways... my fren was making a comment to me the other day abt the weather and how it was like sometimes hot and sometimes cold... which is true... i mean the weather in perth has been like weird... and not to mention erratic. i mean it's generally cold.. but then, there were be days it wld rain on end... and there are days where the sun is shining so much so u can go to the beach. it's no wonder pple get sick man! ahhahahah my 2 roomies have succumbed to the flu bug.. i'm the last one standing. do hope i don't catch it man! but due to my high tendency to get the flu... i think i might get it soon.... soon!! 

anyways, the topic that i want to address in this blog entry wld be 'hu leng hu ri' or simply translated as 'blowing hot and cold'. well by this, i refer to it in the context of BGRs. or rather the process of getting into a r/ship and becoming a couple. this wld generally tie in with the whole 'playing hard to get' notion. recently, i read an article on this in a particular teen magazine in sg. that article teaches u how to play hard to get, to keep the guy interested and yet not seem to eager. (something like a fishing line/rod thingy but that's another blog for another time) isn't weird that we humans have to play this kinda demented mind games to get someone hooked when there is a much simpler way of telling the person that u are interested in he/she? but then.. life isn't simple and so we don't do things simple. there are, of cos, pros and cons in the whole 'hot and cold/playing hard to get' strategy. (and i can't personally list out a proper and detailed one.. but to the best of my knowledge..here goes...) 
 
*this post has been saved as a draft from the 24th of july till now.. the 27th of july.. i shall try my utmost best to try to complete this blog...  but i highly doubt i will.. since i've got like heaps of readings to do b4 my tute tmr...*

anyways, i think the main idea of playing hard to get is to not seem desperate to the other party... it cld serve as a bait to keep the other party hooked and more determine to 'get' u. however, if taken to the extreme... it might just backfire and bite u real hard in the arse... meaning = the other party might find u highly irritating and lose interest rapidly. the other party might view u as being uninterested in him/her or in any other specimens of the opposite sex (depending on which opppsite u're from), hence u might gain the rep of 'ice queen' or simply gay. (i know a couple of examples of ice queens... hahahahah *smirk*)
 
the main idea of 'blowing hot and cold' also has the same connoctations i think.. like sometimes, u say real sweet stuff to the party u are after but at other times, u seem to appear cold and hardly interested. it wld then leave the other party wondering WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THIS PERSON?!?!?! and leave him/her in doubt as to whether u still 'into' them or not. this is a psychological mind game that we sick humans play with others. by doing this whole 'hot and cold' shit, we effectively cause the person in question to be thrown into confusion and mental/emotional trauma, esp if the person in question is also interested in u as well. and thus be extremely upset with u and his/her interest in u will diminish and in some worst case scenarios, never be on speaking terms with u ever again. of cos, the person in question wld take a while to recover from the trauma u've unleashed upon him/her. however, if done well, the person wld be kept highly intrigued by ur personality and the mystery and unpredictableness of the whole situation and try his/her hardest to 'get' u... it wld also serve to keep the person hooked and come back for more (like a few pple i happen to be aquainted with) *hmmm i seem to be repeating the points... and the whole fishing line/rod thingy keeps coming up! oh wells...*
 
i guess playing hard to get or like being hot and cold cld possibly serve as some sort of protection mechanism. by doing so, u don't effectively put everything (meaning like feelings and emotions and to an extent physicality) into the situation. so if the guy/girl don't turn out to be the person u expected her/him to be (ie a good person) then, u wld not have suffered a great loss. there is still room for u too pull back and not sink in too deep.
 
being too easy to get is definitely not a good thing. there shd always be some elements of 'play hard to get' involved. i mean being easy to get will allow an easy victory on the party doing the persuing and hence, the thrill of the chase wld not be highly satisfactory and the romance short-lived. who wld treasure something that was obtained so readily? the object wld be taken for granted relatively soon. the forbidden fruit always taste sweeter even tho no one has gotten the fruit but we only imagine it to be sweeter than the normal ones cos it's so hard to get and everyone wants it (do i make sense in that statement? it makes sense to me tho' but perhaps i'm not expressing the statement well..read it a couple of time and u might get it yah..=P)
 
i guess on one hand, there shd be elements of hot and cold/play hard to get... cos who wld want an easy target? (we humans live for thrills and challenges yah?!) someone who puts himself/herself out there won't have a good rep loh... and why wld we wanna settle for something in second place when we deserves nothing but the best because we are good and nice pple? *at least i hope most of us are anyways* but on the other hand who wld want something that is so diff to obtain to a pt where it's almost impossible?! (i kinda lost my train of thought so i'm just going to end it here... hahahha sorry pple.. anti climax i know)